The last time I was out "kicking" it with some of my frat brothers, we decided to hit one of the premiere social spots in the city. After arguing with the valet about not parking the cars in a deserted alley, but somewhere well lit, we pushed through the crowd and made our way inside. One of my college friends was working the door. It was good to see her; it had been almost 5 years. After a brief exchange of new phone numbers we finally made it inside. One of my bruhs said to me, "Jay, who was she...would you introduce me"?
At some point or another, we've all played the proverbial role of matchmaker. We've introduced, hooked-up, and even vouched for our friends for the likes of someone we knew. And the strength of our word was enough to get them the phone number or even a first date. But, do we realize that the success or failure of that introduction falls on us. And for days, weeks, and months we have to hear "what a great connect or what a horrible hookup". The truth of the matter is, none of us is the chemistry to another persons relationship. And so, you really don't know if it would work or fail. The safest thing you can do is support your friend in their decision to introduce themselves or watch them sheepishly walk away wishing they could say hello. Nothing wrong with saying I'd like you to meet a friend of mine, but after that, allow chemistry or the lack there of to take its own course. No reason for all the pressure to be on you...
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