All or Nothing

Acclaimed R&B musical guru and singer, Joe, came out with a song years ago entitled "All or Nothing". In the opening verse of this persuasive song he says, "I've gotta have all or nothing, Baby with me there is no maybe, If you want to be my lady,
It's all or nothing. Poignantly speaking, this is exactly how the vast majority of us feel. Women, contrary to what we (as men) may try to portray, if you allow us to push the envelope; we will continue to push it without restraint for boundaries. Let me put it this way, without boundaries we have a hard time understanding when to say no.

At some point in your friendship or relationship, there has to be that conversation of, "so what are we doing, building, or working towards". I know within this new millennium women have been taught not to ask men those questions because you may run the risk of running them away. And for the first few times you hang out I would wholeheartedly agree. You never want to share too much too soon. But understand, if you don't have this conversation...while you are thinking that he is only into you and is no longer "playing the field", he on the other hand may not be thinking like that. And actually, it is OK for him to "play the field", until there is conversation not to. Many of you have been debating on whether or not to have this talk - and if you've debated back and forth; I think now is the time. You owe it to your emotional stability to sleep at night knowing where he/she stands in your life.