Jodeci

I have been flooded with emails and letters about people wondering about "intimacy". How important is it? If its not there, is it something that can be taught? Should it be one of my non-negotiables? While I understand that everyone's intimate need is different; what is the same and universal is everyone's need to feel "desired".

The crux of intimacy, no matter what ingredients you need, is the feeling to be desired. We all want to be desired! Being desired is not always captured in words of affection or affirmation, but is transferred through touch. We watch it on tv, we read it in steamy novels, and we talk about it with our closest friends. But all many of us do is talk about it, but never really experience what it is you desire.

I challenge each of you to start having those conversations. It is a part of relationships that doesn't come with a blueprint or directions. The part of relationships our parents have not groomed us in growing up. And the part of relationships that many of us have learned by trial and error. It doesn't have to be any longer if you open your mouth and feel comfortable expressing what it is you truly need and desire. Go and find that old school throwback CD, put it in, press play and let your mind be your playground!